Day 5

Mission 1-Here comes the groom- mission successful

Changed hairstyle-went into college without my hat
Accessorise-recently got some bands, so yup little touches
Make sure your clothes fit- also check, wore a shirt with a brown jumper and standard jeans, fitted well and looked smart.

Mission 2-Make a change- Mission successful

Recently I bought some jumpers and some smart looking shirts, today I wore both of those together as I thought it would change my style a bit and I guess I looked more "intelligent" and more sharper than usual hoodie, t-shirt etc Basically I ditched the hollister/superdry big brands and just played it simple.

Mission 3-Brush up- Mission successful

Today I recapped the mind shaping exercise on the bus
Also tried speaking slower and avoiding mind blocks, speaking more coherently.
Sorted out my posture, so even when i'm walking, I don't bend my back like hunchback of notre dame, so I kept my postture in slightly better shape.

Mission 4-Lay out your school clothes- Mission succesful

Didn't buy any new accessories/clothes today, but I always do lay out what I wear each day because I have college so I guess i'm counting this as mission complete.

Day 4

Mission 1: Hit the showers-Mission successful

Yup, did everything, used every single grooming product I own, used some fancy shower stuff, used this zesty shampoo, used a new "copper" FCUK body spray, the works! Basically, I went a bit further than usual, so I guess mission 1 was pretty easy, standard.

Mission 2:Ask an Expert- Mission unsuccessful

I failed this, mainly because I only had two lessons and I had no opportunities to ask any girls for opinions on shops with menswear, also since Eastbourne is a pretty mundane place for shops, as there is some but not a huge variety of different shops as most are mainstream not a lot of small shops, so It would have looked awkward to go up to some random girl in college to ask her what shops are good as they would have thought I was a FOB.

Mission 3-Stand up straight-Mission successful

This worked, working on the posture,hills,butt,shoulders and head all touched the wall, and I tried to make my posture when I walk straighter, I guess it worked, I felt less of a slouch and it well, felt better?

Day 3

Mission 1: Caveman

Partially complete, I'm not willing to go the whole way.

Mission 2: Speak with Confidence

Finally COMPELTE!

This was an excellent challenge, it's helped me overcome so many of my lingustic difficulties which also makes me self conscious. I'll give a little break down...

Problem 1:Low or Soft Voice

Solution: I don't think I have a soft voice, though I do think my voice is a little low. The exercise consisted of projecting your voice 6-10feet from the audio recorder, even though I was further away, I didn't have to change tone or volume in my voice- needs work though.

Problem 2: Fast Speech

Even before the challenge, this was my main problem. When I speak to others, I always tend to rush my words because I don't want it to linger...thing is I was wrong, it's better to talk slower, as it makes you seem calm and not nervous and speaking a load of bullshit. Obviously, I need to speak at a rate, which isn't a snails but I don't need to speak like roadrunner, so I guess this problem has a solution, though I will work on it.

Problem 3: Brain Farts

Wow another MAJOR problem, even in year 6, I was called "Yeah boy" because I always say "yeah" I thought it was cool but it actually shows that your uncertain of what to say. The exercise included a conversation with one of your friends, so I chose an audio clip of me and my friend commentating on a call of duty video and...WOW. I really see the difference, Ted spoke clearly and slowly which gave the impression to me if I was watching it for the first time that he was super confident,collective and calm. The shock horror when I spoke, it makes me ashamed, the previous problem fast speech... was there, this showed I was nervous and bullshitting. Wow when I talk, I speak quite loud and it's pretty fast, it makes me seem really obnoxious and arrogant and maybe even immature, which is one of the things i want to change, so this has really hit home, I can change this really damaging aspect of my self easily. I noticed that when I talk too fast, I struggle for words and have "brain farts" to fill in the awkward space.

"yeah"

"but"

"but yeah"

"oh yeah"

"see"

"LIKE LIKE LIKE"

"With erm"

" I think"

"by the way"

"could of like..."

Those were my most common phrases I used in those 7minutes of audio, i'm not proud, I need to work on this, the book says visit twice a week, so I guess I will, as this is a potential game changer.

Mission 3: Find Mr. Moviefone

Partial success 3/3 I rang so many different freaking numbers for about an hour and a half and most of the time it was unknown numbers or they wouldn't pick up, so I'm just taking what I have and leaving. First bloke called "ned" recommended I'll sleep when i'm dead, the second guy just said "not really" and the third guy recomended "the king's speech", so yeah i'm counting this mission as a success, just because I haven't got the will to call another wrong number.

Day 2

Mission 1: Set yours goals

1: What three accomplishments would you like to achieve to make you happier?

  Number one- To become a more charismatic, approachable guy

  Number two- Get experience

  Number three- Learn how to speak in a way which can make girls happy.

2: What are the reasons these accomplishments will make you happier?

  A Sense of completeing a difficult goal. Improving on one aspect of my life which needs to be drastically improved(social interaction with girls) and maybe..to stop being all alone in this world, I can't help it, it's human nature to want to be with somebody, isn't it?

3: What is your personal mission?

To embark on a successful task of trying to converse and socialise with girls whilst maintaining a straight A grade streak in my AS levels this year.

I will become a dedicated student/player who will achieve great A level grades and get a girlfriend from today till September 2011

4: List 3 specific results which show you completed your mission

    - I will have all A grades at AS level.

    - I will have confidence to talk to girls

    - I will be "close" to a girl(not a girlfriend but not just a friend)(so unlikely that world ending in 2012 looks more probable)

5: Why are you now fully committed to pursuing your personal mission? I want to make something worthwhile in my life, I don't want to live a mediocre life, I want the bright lights, the money, the fortune, the success... because if you don''t you will suffer over the next years my life will be a failure.

But if I do pursue it now, I will enjoy the next years and my life and all my goals will be achieved.

Mission 2:"Look into your eyes"

 Sound File- yup done, don't know how effective this psycho trip stuff is.

Mission 3:

1: The short guy in the superdry shop-dark brown eyes
2: the guy who tried to find me the top- dark blue
3: The blonde sails assistant- light blue eyes
4: Some girl across the street- she just looked at me for 2 seconds and i noticed she had blue eyes as well
5: The waitress-dark brown eyes

Day 1

Mission 1: Evaluate Yourself

"Your first mission is to write answers to the following questions. Don't worry about what anyone else will think of your answers. Your goal is to be as honest with yourself as possible"


1: Write one or two sentences describing how you believe other people currently perceive you."


That guy who can be really shy and awkward when in a room of people he doesn't know and is somebody who you would feel uncomfortable to talk to or the guy when with friends acts a bit too immature and loud.


2: "Write one or two sentences describing how you'd like to be perceived by others"


The smart, confident and charismatic guy who you can easily approach and converse with.


3: "List three of your behaviors or characteristics you would like to change"


Number one: Degree of arrogance- too much makes girls think your just a jerk and not funny
Number two:  Shyness/awkwardness- Don't be shy to say "Hi" and just calmly interact with others
Number three: Stuttering and mumbling words/talking fast- girls will think your a nervous wreck


4: "List three new behaviors or characteristics you would like to adopt"


Number one: Charisma- just that element which people will be like hey, that guy seems laid back, easy to talk to and the "there's something about him"
Number two: Keeping focus and concentration- Having that extra edge and wit when talking to girls.
Number three: Intelligence- stop saying stupid shit and think before you say, don't always have to say something in your mind, if it sounds  good say it, if it sounds dumb and irrelevant keep zipped up.

Mission 2: Read and Destroy

Reading the manifesto " The Chains That Bind"-Read it, some really useful facts in there. Particulary enjoyed the one that to overcome a "limiting belief" all you have to do is think of a time when you said the same thing but you managed to dispell your belief. In the first instance I thought of the time I can't do maths but then I remembered a time last year, under pressure in the exam, I needed to get the recurring decimal question right, I could have left it and be 4 marks short, I didn't I persisted and eventually ended up getting it right and I know thats what got me the "A*" in unit 2 calculator paper for Maths, got 23/25 marks, I think. This is great because this will enable me to have the confidence and will power to engage brain and overcome my limiting belief and to ace AS level Maths.


In this context, the question in the book said " think of a time when you was comfortable around beautiful girls" Hmmm I agree, I would clam up and be extremely nervous around them but then I stop to think and infact, I do already kind of talk to pretty girls without sweating a bucket, there's nothing to worry about.


Basically, all the "limiting beliefs" in the manifesto, I think at one point in the last couple of months I've had, it's great that the book has already dispelled them, for example, "people judging you is actually not the case and they are scared of being judged themselves, or women are not attracted to nice guys, just jerks...


The two I find most compelling is  that if you try and approach a girl, she'll think your lame and trying to hit on her, that only happens if you make her feel uncomfortable and creep them out if you approach them badly.


The greatest "limiting belief" which has really hit home for me is the " There's this one girl..." The truth in the book seems like the words of God himself, telling me what I should have done in the last couple of months as it says" If your hung up on one particular girl and can't get out of your mind-and she hasn't given you any sense that she shares the feelings(huntington)-then recognize that's not love your feeling, but obsession.


"interact with many women as possible...some of whom are capable of recognizing your worth and reciprocating your feelings.


I totally agree with the last statement, thats what I should have done, instead of moping around and feeling sorry for myself, ah well lesson learnt and myth dispelled, time to get on with mission three on Day 1!

Mission 3: Operation Small Talk

This mission sounds good, have work in a bit, so this is the perfect opportunity to do this.


-Edit-Mission completed:D


At work, I managed to start a conversation with atleast 5 people here's the list..


1:Couple called Mr and Mrs Gilby, usually come in every week, but I wasn't there for the last couple of weeks  and the conversation included I was good with management


2: old fella called Mr Bourne, usually orders, never spoke to him, caught him glancing at the back pages, talked about Charlton FC and Chris Powell


3:Mr Connolay- Haven't seen this dude in months, though the courtesy "how you keeping.." was in order


4: Mrs Wiseberg- This nice american lady, chit chat and she said she liked my hat!


5: A guy called Mr Oliver, this time not so successful, just said "have you been busy of late?" and the courtesy grunt "yeah, not too bad.." he then read the paper, still this counts.


6: Court- This bloke was reading the paper and I said to him "so what team do you follow?" He said Liverpool! haha I was so surprised, we had a nice chat about the teams woes and fortunes.


7: This couple, who ordered 40minutes ago for 7:05, we were running super late, soI had to fill the gap in with some chit chat, the meal wasn't ready till about 7:20, so I think I managed to keep them in check because usually you get freaking bad evils from people who are hungry and impatient. Spoke about Freeview boxes, Madonna, Sky 3d tv, Hammersmith Apollo, an 80's band called the Cult.


8: This lady, don't know her name, but we spoke about food, she told me how she went to this play in hastings for four and they had a bill of £54.00, which was apparently expensive. Also how new year's was super busy and people just buy 1/4 duck.


9: Last customer of the night, this lady and her husband come in called " Stuart" I think they're son-in-law or son was with them, then MOTD was on, Villa vs City, so I say " that's what you get for 18million!" In reference to DBent, had a coversation if in your current state and if you played 90mins every week in 38 games would you score a goal? and spoke about Van Persie etc.




Yup, Day 1, mission COMPLETE!

Introduction.

Hello, okay so this a brand new blog. Hopefully nobody I know will find this and only strangers on the internet may have a peek at this. I thought it would be too risky posting a sub blog on my main blog as more and more people have access to that one. This is going to be an underground project, though I really can't write it down on paper or in the book, so I guess online is the way to go.

Okay, just for reference, 22nd January 2011, the book " The rules of the game" by neil Strauss, arrived at my house today, this could possibly be the best £5.11 I've ever spent or just another example of money wasted. Let's hope it's the former.

I guess this blog will document my "progress" of this challenge, maybe after the 30 days then I will come out as a more educated and reformed person.

Live and let die is what I say, let my Stylelife challenge...commence!